Showdown at Sundown November/December 2006
		Regina's Upcoming Speaking Engagements December 6 Bringing New Conversations to Business and Strategy. For More Information The Oregon Association of Nurseries will be hosting this interactive discussion. Time and Place TBA. January 10, 2007 Mastering Powerful Conversations: What is your leadership communication style? Register This four-hour dinner is designed for leaders in any field: technology, creative, corporate business, non-profit, retail owners, food industry, social services, politics, consultants, et al. It is an excellent opportunity to receive feedback from other members of the business community and forge relationships with leaders in the area. Other Events Around Portland November and December Portland Female Executives (PDXfX)~ Holiday Fun and Frolic at the Pittock Mansion! Wired Women Web Society Oregon Entrepreneurs Forum The Link for Women Noteworthy Links and Resources Book and CD Resources on this month's Topic: The Relationship Cure, John Gottman and You are What you Say, Dr. Matthew Budd "Regina is an incredibly talented coach and a deeply compassionate human being..." Find out More > Duel or dialogue: How do you talk when the stakes are high? As in when you disagree with your business partner about where the next round of funding will come from, or with your spouse over the best interest of your child? When the stakes are high we tend to default from open dialogue into dueling monologues. Our partner becomes our opponent, and nothing matters beyond what we believe. We must be heard. Sound familiar? The Distinction A DIALOGUE is any number of people in a conversation. There is a stream of meaning flowing between the participants, and there is no winner or loser. People are generating ideas freely. A MONOLOGUE is one-sided and is usually about proving a point. It is most often "recycled material"--at heart, the same stuff you've said before, driven by the same objective again and again: to win.* The Opportunity If conflict is constriction, dialogue is an opening. When you let go of the point you're stuck on, possibility enters like an entity all its own: Something gets created in the free flow of information that wasn't getting created by you alone. The best sales people know they will sell with ease by engaging a client in dialogue. The best speakers know they've hooked a crowd by inviting them into their speech. Similarly, the best leaders get the ideas flowing and then direct them. The Practice Start listening everywhere, to your conversations and others. Are they monologues to prove a point? Or is free information being exchanged? Is there a winner or loser? What is the conversation FOR? When you catch yourself in a monologue, see if you can shift it to a dialogue. Be open to the questions that arise. And ask yourself these: - What would need to happen to make the shift? - What am I in the conversation for? What is my agenda? - What is their agenda? - What would I have to do? Listen? - Who would I have to be? Open? - Could I say something new? Go ahead and try it. Invite the spirit of dialogue into your interactions. I promise you, you WILL impact the quality and results of your conversations, your relationship, your business and your bottom line. In courage and peace, Regina *This distinction is offered by Landmark Education, a Global Training and Development company. Coaching   Approach   About Regina   Stories   Events   Contact