Got Grabbed? September/October 2006
		Three part Seminar Series for Leaders Part One: Mastering Powerful Conversations- October 11th Register now for Part I or for all three and receive a discount. Part Two: Your Staff Part Three: Delegating Local Events Around Town Portland Female Executives (PDXfX) Women Entrpreneurs of Oregon (WEO) Oregon Entrepreneurs Forum Noteworthy Links and Resources For a glimpse into how you can better manage your grabs, check out these three books: How the Way We Talk Can Change the Way We Work,Kegan and Lahey and You Are What You Say, Dr. Matthew Budd and The Trance of Scarcity by Victoria Castle. " Regina makes it her mission that you achieve your outcomes and acquire the practices and tools to enable and empower you to be your most powerful and greatest self." Find out More > Got Grabbed? Step into the following scenes and see if they don't jangle your nerves... Your most valuable employee just got recruited by your competitor. (Ouch.) You have to tell a colleague or client something that is very difficult to hear. (Wince.) And look, it's time for the Executive Team meeting, and the VP that annoys you every time will no doubt annoy you this time too. (Grrr.) We're talking about being aggravated. Angry. Set off. Annoyed. Afraid. This is no surprise emotion we're talking about here, but a deeply familiar chemistry that flares up and consumes us when we get triggered. In the coaching world we call this a "grab"- a self-fulfilling prophecy that comes as a response to getting reactivated by something that has triggered us before. It is hard to shake, and it follows us around till we push it down out of sight, or deal with it head-on. When grabs stack up over time, they overwhelm us and drag us down. This looks like exhaustion, over-sensitivity, irritability, boredom. When you've gone this far, it is advantageous to have a coach help you sort them out and turn them into breakthroughs in your leadership. If you're going it alone, follow these steps: - Look right INTO the source of the issue. Assess the situation and find out where you can take accountability. - Vent your feelings: Journal a bit. Talk into your voicemail. Call a colleague and put a five-minute limit on your venting. The point is to get it out and give it space versus packing it away to deal with when it blows up in your lap. - Be honest. If you're grabbed because you have to say something difficult to a client or colleague, try: "This may be hard to hear, and it might be difficult for me say given my respect for you…" Then say what there is to say, not what you think they want to hear. You may not think your frustration has an impact, but your team notices it every day. Powerful leaders are accountable for their moods and the moods of the team. If you can crack the code on this, you've made it much further down the leadership track than just knowing the mechanics of leading. If any of the above sounds interesting to you, check out the upcoming leadership series for CEO's, SVP's and Directors. You will have the opportunity to learn more on real-life leadership (grabs and all) real time, with real leaders. Register for one right now, or for all three and receive a discount. See more details here. In the spirit of breaking through what grabs you, I wish you tenacity and freedom. Regina Coaching   Seminars   About Regina   Testimonials   Events   Contact